if you can afford it, perhaps consider getting your own phone contract? or get a pay-as-you go phone? and then, ask a frined to change the password and text it to AH? this would prevent this in the future.
i think in this case, ignorance is bliss. i know i feel much more in control of myself when i have no clue what xABF is doing...it only sets me back...
and believe me, i know that sinking feeling when our suspicions are confirmed...