Hugs, SKW. I can commiserate. XAH is past due so much on his child support payments that it's enough for a down payment on a house.
DS just spent Christmas Eve day with him and all DS said he got was lunch at a nice restaurant with XAH and GF and one bakugan toy. I'm trying really hard to give them the benefit of doubt and think that they're going to open presents on Sunday when DS is with them again for dinner.
XAH has a new iPhone, a new bike and gear, a 'new' car..... WTF
It's not anything I can control. And DS will not be completely without presents and most definitely not without love. He'll have a peaceful and happy Christmas with me and my family. (Well, as peaceful as it can be with 3 boys running around.)
Wishing you a merry Christmas. Hang in there and take gentle care of yourself.