yes do join al anon i did when my exA first broke up with me by cheating i remember my first meeting all too well they will be very supportive and its helped me immensley i cant recommend them highly enough and u do find not everyone is still with the A now some are some arent and even just listening u will so much better and welcome to SR btw id aslo recommend doing alot of reading on here also its helpful and theres usually someone else having gone through it or going through it xxxx