now eddie, luv...he does have his own sponsor & male friends that he "fires" & abuses all the tme as for me, I am still looking & wishing that the lady I desparately want to be my sponsor would hurry home so for now, I am utilizing my best friend, Carmen, she has 4 yrs of sobriety time...love ya...prayers are freely given and posively recieved!! love ya'll, love, samantha