Originally Posted by
hurtandangry 
Here in the sticks a father never gets custody unless the mother is either locked up, dead or so out of it she can’t function.
Maybe in your state but not mine, (VA). Red Baron might be in a very different situation than you were in and throwing in the towel might be bad advice.
Originally Posted by
hurtandangry Every state has different laws, the original poster has retained counsel in his state and my opinion is that following the advice of paid counsel is generally wise.
THIS, is good advice.