Thanks for all of this. Part of me says listen to the lawyer, but part of my says that when you've got a hammer, everything looks like a nail, and in the end, an attorney is always going to push legal solutions. Also, the comment about the extended family is very true: If I file, they will all be appalled than I'm, as someone said, pulling the rug out from her and they'll see it as sabotaging her. And remember that their testimony as to what they've seen of her drunken antics and what they've heard the kids report is pretty important here: Blood is already thicker than water, and if they all rally around her because I'm the bad guy, it will have real consequences. AAAAAARGH!