This is a freaking nightmare. I've already got an attorney -- and she offered the option of a temporary order granting me exclusive possession of the house in order to protect the kids, and then some sort of agreed custody arrangement. But my wife's counsilor is worried that she's being distracted by outside events, and therefore I've not yet taken any legal steps as they would surely be an even greater draw of her attention away from her reocovery. And yet now I risk having this turned against me, and by giving up the first move, I could end up losing my whole family.