Originally Posted by
Mark75 
Maybe work on yourself a bit more before taking a chance on meeting people you don't know off the internet.
AA is a great place/program to get recovered and deal with issues, and it is usually safe as long as you follow some common-sense rules... like socialize only with women in AA at first.
Counseling is another option.
Mark
Yah Mark nailed it. I was thinkin the same thing. It seems like alot to take on at one time. Focus on getting yourself right first otherwise I can see it going very badly fast if things don't work out with a new man. It also sounds like you might be replacing your co-dependent relationship with alcohol with a new one with a man. I think you might even be aware of the red flags here just by the fact that you brought it up on here.