I find it fascinating when others or myself say, "S/he did blah blah and I was crushed or devestated or I can never trust her again" I am just blown away.
Why?
I do this, too!!
When my AH lied Ithe first time I know of) and I caught him it did not OCCUR to me...
to walk away.
It did not OCCUR as a big concern and red flag.
It did not OCCUR that I even had the option to walk. Or that this was the beginning of more lies and denial and hiding. Or that I had a sane response to being treated awfully and that is to NOT PUT UP WITH IT.
None of it occured.
We spend years more doing the same things and feeling frustrated at their behavior.
It doesn't occur to us that that is unacceptable behavior and we don't have to take it. Or that it would do us good to walk. Or that we deserve more. Or that we don't have to wait and hope but can expect respect NOW.
I doesn't even occur.
I wish you all the best.
You deserve more and you can walk away from situations in which you are disrespected. Even if it means separating and the long process of divorce (as in my case)!
namaste