As i got to the bottom of your post I was thrilled to see you got an order of prtection..sane people don't say things like that.Ugh! I go to alanon and it really helps me..lots of people ther have lingering issues do to addiction.It could really help you with your dad..the enablers/codependents (and I include myself in that statement!) are as sick as the addicts..can't see clearly anymore..threatening to burn your kids?It truly is a family disease..you would be welcome there.