You have my support and prayers.
I haven't seen this expressed here yet so i'll give it a go. Your wife is sick.
Her ideas, manipulations, demands, tears are all stemming from her sickness. Here is the rub, if she were healthy(sober) she would see that her demands for reinstatement into your home with your children are dangerous to them and to herself. Her blindness to that fact highlights her sickness.
IMHO - SHE has proven that her behavior has put your children in danger, SHE has to show that this will not happen again. When she truly is sober, SHE will do whatever it takes to gain your trust. Not demand that you give it to HER without earning it back.
SHE may at some time be ever so grateful that YOU were able to stand up for your children and that includes standing up to her sicknss. Or SHE may not....but YOU will be.
Sending you positive energy for strength, courage and wisdom.
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