Thank you Dee. I agree. I should have been looking at it from that point of view. I wasn't trying to blame her, even though it came across that way. That is a good suggestion. It is difficult to open up. If he suggests, or he sometimes asks, what pain medicine I will need I will definitely tell him to give me something that is equivalent to an over-the-counter medicine. He gave me me ib profen once when I got very little work done and they did help with the swelling and pain. I'm just very new to this and I needed somewhere to go to talk with someone who will understand and be there to offer some advice. I've already taken some steps and I am ready to stop.