Hi veryshy
Welcome to SR
Originally Posted by
veryshy 
Another family member gets painkillers every month and she tells me I can take them whenever I need them. The family member who gets the pills every month is very caring and she hates to see anyone in pain, so she gives me them whenever I ask, sometimes I think she knows I'm not in pain but she has been use to it with other family members so I think she just doesn't want to say anything. The problem is, I'm not trying to blame her, but I need her to tell me no.
I'll be straight with you here.
Actually I think you need to tell her no, veryshy.
Your recovery is your responsibility, not your relatives.
Many of us had well meaning but enabling relatives or friends. If you really want to make changes in your life you need to institute them - none fo us can afford to wait on others to do it for us.
It's up to you to draw a line in the sand, and to look for support - joining SR is good but have you thought of recovery groups like NA as well?
I was just wondering if anyone has any tips for me to help me deal with this everyday, since this is new for me. Also, I still have dental work to go and I am given pain medication for the work my dentist does. Are there any tips for taking the medication while in pain, but not over-doing it? I could really use the advice. Thank you.
I don't know of tips for learning control veryshy - if I did there'd be no need for places like SR.
Does your dentist know about your addictions tho? I know it's hard to open up about things like this, but it comes back again to how much you want to change your situation, I think.
There may be other alternatives available - I've had extensive dental work myself recently - some work may not need any more than an OTC pain relief.
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