I'm glad you found your way back here
I've had nothing BUT dysfunctional relationships...3 to be exact, one lasting over 20 years. I had a "normal" childhood, so I'm guessing I was born a codie.
That being said, I've been working on me for a while. I got into my codie recovery the same time I got into my addiction recovery. I NEVER want to be the woman I was...someone who takes whatever is thrown at them, and practically begs for more.
I'm on SR every day, and it's been my lifeline. I still don't quite trust myself to get out into the dating scene, yet, but I am much more aware of "red flags" and that's a good thing. I've had to accept that I can't undo 40+ years of being a codie in a day....I WANT to, but it just doesn't work that way.
I'm sorry you went through what you did, but I think you're doing GREAT at realizing it, and reaching out.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy