hello, indigomama, and welcome to sober recovery.
you need to place the oxygen mask on your own face BEFORE you place one on your child's. your value to your children is compromised until you take care of yourself. then you can be more whole, and much more of a blessing to them.
if it is selfish to think of, and take care, yourself.....
well, so what?
why is that wrong?
it is only in being "selfish" that we can be all we can be - the creatures that god intended us to be.
peace to you, and keep coming back