phineas,
I mourned this love plenty. And trust me, it hurt - more than I ever thought possible. Never in a MILLION years would I have imagined what would befall my beloved, who had never even had a sip when we started dating. How's that for crazy?
We were married for 11 years, together for 4+ before that, and I've been contemplating divorce for, um, 6 years. Just took me a long time to go through with it. The process takes a long time.
I'm just glad it's over. And this is definitely the beginning of a new chapter. That last one was indeed long and painful. Here's to new beginnings! (And not making that mistake twice!)