(((Nightandday))) - I'm an RA AND recovering codie. I spent almost 30 years in totally dysfunctional relationships with A's.
I do believe, in my case, the codie recovery is harder. It was when I got all codie stressed that I turned to drugs.
The good news is, that though it takes time, you can get better. I've been working on my codie stuff for more than 3-1/2 years, and I've made some good headway. What helped me, the most, was coming here and reading what others have done or are doing. I'd take baby steps, try their suggestions, and decided to take a break from men until I get to the point where I am not looking for a man to complete me, as I've always done. I want someone to enhance my life.
Sure, it's lonely sometimes, but I really, really don't want to make the same mistakes I made in the past.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy