Dyeman -
I'm sorry that you're going through such a hard time but am really glad that you have your program to help you through.
As we know, they'll blame anything, say anything and do anything to make it OK for them to drink. Considering other's emotional and physical needs is not my AH's strong suit. Doesn't sound like it's your's either.
My AH will try mean. If that doesn't work, he tries pitiful. It's so predictable.
I'm glad you're here. Keep posting, reading and venting. Everyone here understands.
L