yeah...
Every one of those things you listed were pretty typical for my A.
Even the cockamamie ridiculous things like saying they support you when you out earn them, attacking the kids with mean ness..., calling you old, ugly.
They are cockamamaie ridiculous things.. You know this.
Do not let this crap get into your head, or under your skin, Susie...you know this stuff.
Alcohol is awful, makes people into different people, but also, sometimes those people are a little bit of jerks to begin with.
Listen, He is miserable. Who wouldnt be? They have no control over themselves. A major feature of continued alcoholism is cynical views and negativity.
It is just as in any other abusive dynamic: the abuser is lashing out because THEY FEEL inferior, squished somehow, ugly, old... It kind of does not matter why. Just do what you can to let it BOUNCE OFF OF YOU AND STICK TO HIM.