Originally Posted by
daughter333 
Next step is telling him I won't take him to buy wine when he comes to visit...this one may be trickier and I'm not sure whether I need to give him a heads up beforehand or not. I have a few weeks to decide.
I did this with my XAH--It was actually my first boundary: not buying him booze anymore. At first, I just told me I had no more money. Eventually though, he figured out that I wouldn't buy him booze whether I had cash or not. All I needed to do was tell him I was broke a few times over. My stomach was in knots every time I had to do it, but eventually, he knew where that line in the sand was drawn.
congrats on your boundary!