Hey Kimmy,
Welcome to Sober Recovery.
He can't be honest with you, that's part of the disease.
He's blaming you? That's blame shifting. By blaming you he doesn't have to take the rap for his part in all this.
There is nothing you can do to fix him or what's wrong with him.
If he's going to get clean, he has to want that and make a decision to do something to change his life.
You need to take care of you right now.
Coming here was a great start. Have you thought about Alanon meetings? That is a good way to meet people who understand what you're going through.
I'm glad you found us, stick around.
Gabe