Originally Posted by
Babyblue 
I meant that he had left my life for other reasons not having to do with relapse or problems when we were in our 20s. We were not serious at all but I still missed him terribly when he had to move away. He did not have a drinking problem then and was sober when we reconnected later on.
Oooooooh, OK that's a bit of a different story then. I thought you had gone through this same thing with his addiction years ago...
It seems like the more absent they are during early recovery, the more focused they are on working their program the right way. It sucks for us though, and I just remember thinking during those long periods of no or minimal contact, 'why the hell doesn't he just let me go?'
Yes, YOU YOU YOU! I know this is easier said than done! My heart really does go out to you because I know exactly what you are feeling. Who knows what the future holds, but I'm sure you know that despite how you feel right now things will get a lot better. xoxo