Wow I just stumbbled upon this message board by google of codependence. I feel such relief that there are people out there that have similar circumstances and understand me. My fiancee says just don't talk to her, but he doesen't understand that it's not that easy, and the end all soloution. I was at my whit's end last night. Today is pretty rough, my mom already called me four times with anger, anger, extreme happiness, and last call anger and hung up the phone on me because I couldn't meet her until tommorow instead of today. Thank you for suggesting that book, I am going to start there. Can anyone lead me to a direction that gives me information on boundries, and setting them? Or is that in the book suggested? No I do not go to Alanon. Is that something that I should go to even though my mom is not an alcoholic?