"Most people try to live by self-propulsion. Each person is like an actor who wants to run the whole show; is forever trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery and the rest of the players in his own way. If his arrangements would only stay put, if only people would do as he wished, the show would be great. Everybody, including himself, would be pleased. Life would be wonderful." How It Works pgs. 61-62 (3rd edition)
That definitely applied to me not only in my alcoholism, but in my codependency too. It's darned hard to put that director's wand down sometimes!
