I want to ask WHY isn't skipping Thanksgiving with your in-laws an option? You are NOT the person who should feel guilty about the situation you described! You shouldn't be the person who has to feel responsible about how Thanksgiving Day turns out!
I agree with Phoenix. I was wondering why you HAVE to go there?
I, too, have developed an allergy to any and all substance abusers. If anyone looks at me cross eyed, I am outta there.
Geez, just my experience, the holidays are tough already, why add to the load?
Beth