outsidethecage,,
i understand your frustration. when you need help right now and no one was here.
from what you describe, it sounds like your boyfriend is addicted to alcohol.
there are other methods for recovery besides AA, but AA and AlAnon are what I am familiar with.
There are some links in the stickies, such as SMART and Rational Recovery.
I believe there is no higher power in either one of those recovery programs.
Anyway, I am glad you posted and hope you come back.
Beth