Sorry the forum is a bit quiet just now.
Even on a big worldwide board like this we have quiet times
Whether you believe the ideas behind the organisation or not, they have a motto in al-anon called the 3Cs - you didn't cause your bf's alcoholism, you can't control it and you can't cure it.
From my experience as an alcoholic with two failed relationships behind me, I believe in that 100%.
Ultimatums never worked for me, I'm afraid.
The only thing that did work was
me reaching the point where *I* wanted to stop....and no-one, however much they bullied me, or cajoled me, or loved me could get me there...until I was ready.
I know you want to help your bf. But that's not your job. That's his job.
Your job is to help yourself. Your job is take make sure you stay healthy, have definite boundaries with your bf, and don't slip further into the hard drinking whirlpool.
And I know that folks, with way more experience from the other side than me, will be along to help you with that.
Welcome to SR
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