I understand the confusion with symptoms and side effects!
My biggest problem with the Effexor was sweating profusely, and if I even missed one day's dose, I would have the worst metallic taste in my mouth, and it was like my mind was out of synch with my body. Ugh.
I've been on Cymbalta in place of the Effexor for several years now, and have had no side effects from it.
I couldn't take the depakote either because I'm also on Neurontin, and combine that with the Remeron at night, I was dopey-feeling all day long.