Originally Posted by
seekingcalm 
I went to couples counselling with my exabf when he was drinking (hiding it though, and lying plenty about it.) It was a waste of everyone's time.
I agree and I guess that is where I am at. We are just wasting time and money and I can't do it anymore. And I know you are right in that he likely won't hear me anyway, but I need to say those words for me and not for him...I guess I just feel making sure there is some clarity in them would down the road help me when I re-read them to myself.