well after reading these reponses i have decided that maybe i should forget the wine at dinner. i dont' think any of my guests will feel slighted. (except maybe my sister!)....she'll live
my AH is struggling right now trying so hard not to drink and he's hurting physically and emtionally. i would hate to think anything i did encouraged him to fall off the wagon..... i am proud of him, even if its only been 2 days. that's big for him....and its a start.
thanks all of you for your words of wisdom!