Originally Posted by
Onewithwings 
Then she told me that if it was going to be a problem, she just won't come. Great, you had a chance to see your daughter, son-in-law, and grandson (We live in AZ, she lives in FL. She has only seen him 3 times in his 27 month life) but apparently getting drunk on Christmas alone sounds like a better option.
Great, sounds like it's settled to me. You get to start a NEW family tradition of alcohol free holidays. Good for you. Send her a card.
Of course, seeing as this is total manipulation BS, if you stand by your boundary, after a few days, she'll probably reluctantly agree, then figure out a way to come and get drunk any way.
My money's on scenario number two.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote