You can feel a spark with a nice man of course! And guess what, there are bad boys out there without drinking/drugging issues! Imagine that
The best kind for me or the combo bad boy underneath good boy exterior.
It is either there or it ain't there and their lifestyle, choice in music or clothing has nothing to do with it for me. It is about having things in common to talk about, and chemistry. I won't bother if there is no chemistry or if I have to 'work on' making chemistry. Life is too short and I'm not getting any younger! I married the nice guy and as much as I loved him, something throughout was missing. I knew this but thought it would appear. Never did.
But we all have different needs in partners and relationships. I am very independent and I bore easily. ha.