When I stopped sending my AD cards, and calling her being sooo supportive all the time, she grew to miss those things and realise that its a 2 way street. It's just another layer of the codependence to me. WE need time to heal our sick and scared brains too.He is in a supportive place with people who are trained to help him..hand him over and enjoy your holidays.These are the consequences of his addiction (no Christmas with the family, not seeing his little guy) HE needs to feel them.YOU can enjoy your other children and focus on them.If you are anythinglike me, the other kids have probaly suffered from all the focus on the addict.It's their turn right now. You sound like you are definately moving in the right direction.Sometimes our anger is a good motivator for change!