Is it possible to feel a spark with a nice man? Good question!
I didn't feel a "spark" with my DH on our first (blind) date. He was very nice, took me to a lovely restaurant, had a great job, drove a nice car, seemed honest, was talkative and intelligent. Does it get any better than that? But no "spark".
We had one date.....and then I moved 3,000 miles away and we didn't talk for a couple of months. Through a series of strange events we got in contact again and talked on the phone for a few months (almost daily) and became friends. He sent me a plane ticket (another nice gesture) and I came out to visit him. I knew I liked him (a lot) but because we had become friends, I was concerned that kissing him was going to be like kissing my brother (eeew). Needless to say, it wasn't......and THAT's when I felt the spark. Whoa.....did I feel the spark!
After my week long visit, he took me to the airport to send me back to my home 3,000 miles away and as we were parting he said "When are you going to come back here and marry me." My reply "Give me 30 days." 30 days later he flew out, packed all my stuff up in a box truck and drove me back to the West Coast. Three months later.....we got married.
That was 25 years ago. I love him more today than I did the day I married him. He is a good, solid, honest man with great integrity. He works harder than anyone I have ever met and he loves me.....of that I have no doubt.
So......sometimes......when you don't feel that "spark" on the first date or initially with a nice guy......give him a chance. In the long run, they are a much better emotional investment than the "bad boys".
gentle hugs