I just looked up 'grooming' on the internet and saw that it usually means sick behaviour directed towards minors, not adults. I tried to edit the word out of my post but I wasn't able to for some reason even though I've edited before. I apologise in advance for the use of that word....I think what my friend was meaning is she thinks he's trying to reel me in and get me to trust him and then his true motives will be revealed....