For me getting sober was a kind of head down, slogging, private thing. Before I had tried to quit and I was very dramatic and theatrical about it. Tears and promises. But when it was really time it was all I could do to just get through the day. I had no room for anyone else in my life. I didn't even tell my husband what was going on for weeks. And when I finally did I cried for myself. For the lost soul I had been.
I am only 3 months into this and it's still a day to day thing for me. Not staying sober but creating this new life. I'm a better wife and mother. But honestly there are no big overtures. I can't turn back time. But I know we're all enjoying life more now.
My advice would be to encouage your wife to go have fun and relax. Living with someone in early recovery is no picnic.