I eventually got really really ticked off and I think that helped too. In the end I had to accept that my xah was just not going to understand but I couldn't be held hostage by that.
Yeah, this too. I had to get mad about him (my ex) using tears and emotions to hold me to him. What kind of relationship is that? The Stockholm Syndrome?
Anyone here old enough to remember that raise your hand!
LOL
I think I read it here, alcoholics don't have relationships, they take hostages.
as a recovering alcoholic, i can tell you i used emotional blackmail whenever i felt it necessary to keep the sick status quo.
maybe i was projecting a little craven in my last post.
i will try to stick to "I" statements.