I have touched on this but not gone quite deep enough. My dad was the alcoholic in my family but actually wasn't around too much. I have learned lately that I was more affected by my verbally abusive mom than my alcoholic dad. Well, the whole dysfunctional system, really. But, I feel that it is definitely worth it to dig in there. There is so much hidden that we don't realize. I'm going to start seeing a therapist soon to assist in my delving into my mom's abuse. I'm scared about it and don't really want to but, part of me is ready to go there and dive into this dark part of me that I've been hiding from.
That's my experiences. I haven't got the big red book but would love to get a copy. It sounds pretty helpful.