Step 3 is a formal decision. Like it says in the BB, though our decision was crucial, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed up by a course of vigorous action to identify and be rid of the things which had been blocking us. Or something like that.
I can wish to stop playing God all I want, it doesn't mean I'm able to stop playing God. My decision had to be followed up with action to form a conscious contact with that power to guide my life.
The best thing you can do for your daughter, and the only way to carry out the Step 3 decision, is to get going on Step 4. By the end of this process, you'll know how to stop running the show.