I feel you about control. We ask ourselves blankly, "How am I controlling?"
Well, what becomes more clear with each day is how I control FOR GOOD!
That's my superpower. Control.
Although I do a lot more TRYING to control than any controlling, in truth.
So, how do do it?
Trying to get him to talk to me about drinking, depression, porn, money, problems.
Trying to get him to realize depression is a theme in his life.
Trying to get him to realize he has a drinking addiction.
Trying to get him to realize drinking to manage depression is not a healthy choice.
Trying to get him to realize he has the ability to change the way he looks at a situation.
Trying to get him to realize that his fear and resistance ruins any chance of us talking about these issues.
Do you see a theme? LOL!
I feel like his life would be way better off if he would get on board with my ideas.
I feel like our relationship could survive if he could just "face the truth".
*sigh*
He doesn't want to.
He doesn't want to change.
He doesn't want to be changed.
He doesn't want to see it differently.
Which means me continuing to pursue getting him to do anything is control. Even if it is getting him to decide with me what we are going to do about this relationship. The ball is in my court 100%.
Peace