Some men, a few, not all are big on marking the territory. Clawing on bark, scenting on bushes....... you know. He maybe one of those "markers." You don't have to marry this guy tomorrow. Just date him. Date him for a long time before you decide to join belongings or whatnot. It's good to have some musings/thoughts on how this could develop but you don't have to make anything permanent. If you enjoy his company then enjoy it but just keep your ears and eyes open. You don't have to make any decisions long term about him now.
That is something I've managed to develop in my recovery. I used to see things as black or white, this way or that and I had to immediately act on all that. I don't, I have options, I don't have to do a thing or make a decision today and I found so many shades of gray instead of stark white and black.
Last edited by meditation; 11-14-2010 at 10:28 AM.
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