Well, from our side of the fence, the things I would say to you are: stay in the now, stop awfulising and keep your own side of the street clean! Your recovery is yours to work on. Focus on it. Take one step at a time and one day at a time. Trouble may well rear its head - but it might not! You cannot control your wife. Stop trying to analyse her. Get the focus back on you.
I would say all these things to a codie. Maybe they apply to you too?
Wiser heads with more experience of your type of situation will be around soon to talk to you.
Well done on your very early recovery - keep up the good work!