I don't have a codie-meter so I can't answer your specific question
but here are some things you can think about in order to answer yourself:
Did he come to me and ask me to help?
Did he ask me directly for a specific amount of money for a specific purpose and a specific timeframe?
Is a grown man his age capable of finding a place to live and renting it?
Did I evaluate his options and choose for him?
Did I merely react to information he dumped on me?
Did he take ownership of his problem or did he just talk about it?
Was I trying to solve a problem that is not mine?
Did I feel sorry for him?
The answers you come up with should help you see ihow codie you are being. Feel free to share if you want.
Good post!! Thank you for sharing!