Hi jluebs, and welcome to SR!
It is painful to know that someone is slowly destroying themselves with alcohol.
Since he had previously been in rehab, he has the tools to live a sober life. He made the choice to start drinking again.
Are you attending Alanon? If not, I highly recommend checking into meetings in your area because there you will find face-to-face support among those who understand. Those of us who have loved an alcoholic need our own program of recovery to heal from the effects that alcoholism has had on our lives.
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie is an excellent starter book.
Please take the time to read through some of the sticky topics at the top of this forum and educate yourself on alcoholism
There are 3 C's to remember:
You didn't cause his alcoholism.
You can't control his alcoholism.
You can't cure his alcoholism.
Alcoholism
is a progressive disease.
Please do continue to post and know that you are among friends.