still waters - that IS his point, I know. but selfish child in me can't help but regress and say "you're mean and you suck!". If you want to smile or wince (it'll be one or the other), what he actually said was that I was "a gaping chasm of alcoholic neediness" and "there's nothing all that interesting about a garden variety drunk" - ouch. As for what I'm dong for my own recovery is working my fifth step later today with my sponsor. It was painful to get it all down and see just how far I've fallen (this issue being a perfect example), but sharing it will clear the way for more progress.
thanks all for taking the time to respond. clara