It's hard, but sometimes it pays to take a step back then try a new approach.
I like the way Dee put it: you get out what you put in, and if your solutions don't seem to be getting you anywhere try another.
Every alcoholic knows something about persistence, it's what kept us drinking. We'd try any means to get drunk and do whatever it takes. Sobriety requires a similar tack. Only with sobriety the end results are a life.