I mentioned the recording because my husband filmed me when I was incredible drunk around the kids. I tried to hide too. He didn't show it to me but told me I could watch it when I was ready.
I wanted to vomit when I saw it. Yes I felt ashamed and horrified but it made me think twice about drinking when the kids were around.
I see how it could be used to control or manipulate but in my case it was an eye opener.
I see that my husband just didn't know what else to do because in the morning I would lie and tell him I remembered everything and I wasn't really drunk. What a joke.
Thanks for starting this thread! I'm new here too and have much to learn.