Sara
Welcome to SR....I'm glad you found us but at the same time, I'm sorry that you're dealing with these troubles with your husband.
This must be very painful for you right now but you are thinking clearly through the chaos that your husband's behavior is creating.
Stick around. Lean on all of us here. There are so many people who have dealt with an addicted spouse here who can give you support. Just take things one day at a time.
gentle hugs