It was only when I tried to REASSURE HIM that it was fine for him to drink to the point of puking and smoke weed every day but just not in the house that I realised just how selfish he is.
I think this bears taking a look at. Why would you settle for someone who finds it necessary to alter his state of mind chemically?
I started relationship hopping shortly after I got out of rehab and left my EXAH (who was still using/drinking).
At best, my choices were men who were emotionally unavailable. At worst they were emotionally abusive.
Today I won't settle for less than I deserve. I'd rather be alone than to share a bed with an active addict and/or alcoholic or any dysfunctional man for that matter.