Originally Posted by
jackthedog 
I am talking to my son about alcoholism and have told him that at any time he feels his father is drinking and wants to drive him, he can text me the letter "x" and I will call him and come to get him.
This is a great idea. Keeps your son out of the mess if AH starts things up. The next thing is IF he gets angry about you arriving you can simply tell him to call the police and they can decide if your son should drive with his intoxicated father.
I hope things get better. One thing that did help (not initially but later) was that part of the placement agreement we have is that no alcohol or controlled substances can be used 12 hours before and during placement.
Your plan sounds good. Things are in turmoil enough for your son. He does not need to start taking care of himself right now regardless of his age.
You are a great mom!